r/recruitinghell 3h ago

Custom The psychological pain of long-term unemployment is real

340 Upvotes

I have been unemployed for months now, and I am genuinely at my breaking point.

I’ve done everything right. I have a higher degree, solid experience at well-known companies, strong recommendations, multiple languages, and a professionally reviewed CV. I tailor my cover letters, network, and apply strategically. Yet nothing seems to move. It’s like shouting into the void every day.

The emotional toll is what no one warns you about. Watching savings disappear, seeing friends move on with their lives while I just… wait. Every week feels like the same cycle of rejection, hope, burnout, and guilt for not doing enough. The worst part is the powerlessness, knowing you can’t control who glances at your CV, or that someone slightly “better” might always edge you out.


r/recruitinghell 5h ago

check your copy machines, HR

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A few years ago, I worked as an administrator involved in extending a copier contract for our office.

A man came to install the new machine and set up all the buttons and emails, and he left.

when you scan something at the machine and send it to yourself, weirdly it appeared to come from a Gmail email address, a generic one, not our company address. I was wondering, why is Gmail involved and after a few busy weeks I called them and asked them to give me the password to the Gmail address. the copier dealer company said they couldn’t give me the passwords or access to that Gmail because “they owned it”.

  1. they created a Gmail address linked to the copy machine at our office that harvested everything that we scanned on that machine, including payroll checks, job applications, deposit checks and lists that were very confidential.

  2. they first did not want to release the password so that we could login and delete sent files or monitor them or simply be the only ones who can see what was scanned.

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r/recruitinghell 1h ago

HR team working hard denying in the middle of the night

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Carefully reviewed! My favorite Sunday morning email.


r/recruitinghell 3h ago

This subreddit is the most depressing on whole reddit

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I dont know why but recruitinghell just came into my feed and when I red some threads its so goddamn depressing Im almost a little bit scared what would happen if I would lose my job. Things look pretty grim on the job market.

And those AI "helpers" that recruiters use now to determine if you are truthworthy or not is straight out of some scifi horror story. I hope it will be regulation about how to use AI or otherwise 1984 seems like a sunshine feel good story in comparision.


r/recruitinghell 16h ago

Are remote jobs even real?

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Am I the only one seeing all these “data entry - remote” jobs paying $30-$40? Almost all the job postings have the same description and pay and everything.

This kind of job would be perfect for me as i have 2 small kids and want to be there for them while also bringing in a check.

Finding singing like this is becoming so bars bc i don’t know which job postings to trust. Its all very… suspicious.

I’m just so tired of AI! 😞😤


r/recruitinghell 3h ago

75% of my applications get ghosted. I can refer people to my company. Why isn't there a way to trade referrals?

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The Math That's Driving Me Insane:

  • I've applied to: 247 jobs
  • Human responses: 18 (7.3%)
  • Complete ghosts: 186 (75.3%)
  • Auto-rejections: 43 (17.4%)

Meanwhile:

  • 40% of hires come from referrals
  • I have ZERO referrals to companies I want
  • I can give 10+ referrals per year at my current job
  • Those referrals are going to waste

This is so stupid.

Why isn't there a platform where:

  1. I refer someone to my company
  2. They refer me to theirs
  3. We both escape the ATS black hole
  4. Everyone wins except the broken system

I genuinely don't understand why this doesn't exist. Could someone explain to me why this is a bad idea, because I'm about to build it out of pure spite?

Am I crazy, or is the current system just that broken?


r/recruitinghell 2h ago

can we just start a riot at this point

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I am so sick of it I just want a part time job omfg.

Like seriously it’s the only solution that can cause a change.


r/recruitinghell 1d ago

Got a job. They were nice during the interview, seemed like great people. Then on my first day…

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This just happened this week. I entered the interview not really wanting the position but decided to show up last minute. It was a panel interview, with 3 people. Everyone seemed nice. 2 guys and 1 woman. It’s a labor job, but paid just enough. They offered me the position. I decided to take it and brought my documents in the next week, where they were pleasant and cool again. We’re in Texas, they said you can wear whatever you want (with proper footwear). They wanted someone to take some work load off their shoulders.

On my first day, the woman was supposed to train me, show me how things were done. The manager was not present. It was just her and I. And then she goes, “I have a video to show you how to hook up the trucks.” I was confused, but said, okay send it over. Then, she goes, “oh no. I sell the videos. They are $10 each.” Again I was confused this is a very small company and I was the only one of three people that do that. I looked her in the eyes and said, “or maybe you can just show me how to hook it up and everything,” in a serious tone. The truck was 10 feet away. We walked back into the front of the warehouse. She looked me in the eye and said, “or maybe we’ll just find someone else. Maybe some other nobody running from their past, maybe a strong stocker at Target. (I never worked there). Maybe did part-time modeling on the side. Or, you can learn from the videos. It’s up to you.” She was smiling. It felt like she was insinuating those things about me. Excuse fucking me? What?!

I thought that was the strangest thing anyone had ever said to me before. I don’t even know what I responded with, but I was like, alright. I walked out of the front office, and drove home, thinking what the hell. She literally doubled her workload. Was she possessed? Who even thinks of saying that?


r/recruitinghell 20h ago

US Citizen, or US Citizen?

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384 Upvotes

Saw this using Easy Apply on LinkedIN for a Project Manager position 🤣


r/recruitinghell 35m ago

Can I still say no after signing?

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I already signed a contract and set to start in a week but I decided that I wanna do something else. Can I still say no? They already communicate by email in the department that I am joining (it is my old company and I already feel bad cause my manager did so much to get me back)


r/recruitinghell 35m ago

Just a Rant

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I completed my postgraduate degree this past summer. Before that, I did my undergraduate degree and did an internship in my industry every single year, if I could snag one, and I did. I have about fifteen years of freelance experience in what I do, and because I wasn't in the industry during the duration of my postgraduate studies, the only relevant work experience I cultivated during that time was freelancing. I have been applying to entry-level roles since the Spring, so I'd have something lined up following the completion of my degree, but all my efforts were fruitless. I thought, "Maybe it's because I haven't finished, and they're not too keen on taking a risk with an applicant who hasn't finished their degree," which was a logical assumption at the time. So I finished it, and then I dove right back into applying for entry-level roles.

Despite my extensive experience and a postgraduate degree, I am not receiving any offers whatsoever, which I find to be strange because I am more qualified today than I was when I entered the industry, and I was receiving offers left and right back then. I've tailored my covering letters, I've tailored my C.V. for each role, I've conducted extensive research into each company. Unfortunately, post-pandemic, the job market has become so hostile that my options are now scarce, and I have resorted to applying for internships to re-enter my industry after having not worked in it for a few years.

For one of the internships, they asked all the candidates to do a five-day-long test with a given deadline, and this test was labour one would ask of a contracted, compensated, full-time employee. In my industry, and pre-pandemic, it was not only unheard of to administer tests like this to intern candidates, but it was outrightly illegal; the process has always been phone-screening of promising candidates -> interview -> brief test during the interview -> update on application status. Or if there isn't one during the interview, it's phone-screening -> take-home test -> if they decide to move forward, there's an interview -> update on application status. Never, not even once, have I ever sat a test without a phone-screening beforehand; and never have I sat a take-home test that would be considered contracted, compensated labour.

So, naturally, I assumed that things had changed post-pandemic, and followed their instructions; considering my extensive experience and having done several internships, I knew what the industry desired out of this kind of work (that was under the guise of a "test" in this circumstance), so I went all in, followed their instructions and provided a bit more than what they asked for because I knew how the industry worked, and what companies sought out when assigning work like this. I submitted it three hours prior to the deadline, expecting correspondence regarding a confirmation of receipt...but didn't receive anything for two hours; a half-hour prior to the deadline, I sent a separate email to initiate a paper trail of my submission in the event that they were to accuse me of not meeting the deadline. No reply. I assumed they were busy, and then waited.

I waited a month, but nobody reached out for an interview. Nobody sent any sort of correspondence. We were told not to reach out regarding the status of our applications during the selection process post-submission, which I honoured. And the decision date was specified; they didn't specify "by (date)", but "on (date)". They didn't reach out until two days prior to the decision date, on a weekend, in the evening, which was obviously jarring, because I honoured the terms of their request, and never reached out, despite being anxious. I was also seeking other jobs in my industry during that time, but there were no postings, so I was hoping that this place would provide me with the opportunity to re-enter the industry.

Anyway, they rejected me, and I was puzzled about it, and a little hurt that I spent five days performing free labour for them, especially considering this was not the norm pre-pandemic. Frankly, it was unprofessional; I'm not hung up on the rejection as much as I'm hung up on the free labour aspect, them not honouring the specific deadline, and them not honouring the terms of their own request. I don't know if they thought I was overqualified, which I'd understand, or if they wanted me to follow their own company's format for the test, of which they never provided a sample, so how could anyone know? I've also heard that if your perform "too well" on these tests, the companies assume that you've used AI, which I most certainly did not, because I genuinely enjoy this kind of work, it fulfils me, and I never use AI for any work that I do; I never have used it; additionally, we had to sign an NDA prior to receiving the test, so even if I wanted to use AI at all, I'd breach the terms of the NDA, and I just wouldn't do that; I'm a by-the-book kind of person. If they were concerned that I'd used AI, they could've copied and pasted my submission to an AI detector to confirm that I hadn't used it; I did this myself after receiving the rejection, and all the detectors I used said "Your text is human written/0% AI"; so, if they were suspecting that I'd used it, it's very simple to check that I genuinely hadn't, and that it was all my own work.

People are sharing their experiences on here, for which I'm grateful because it seems that the job market is genuinely terrible, but some are even saying to remove your postgraduate degree from your C.V. to get calls and interviews, which is genuinely insane to me, because we did work hard to attain these degrees. Considering how the market is this terrible, and how employers tend to pass on candidates who have advanced degrees due to them believing these candidates are somehow a "flight risk", I don't think these kinds of candidates are willing to risk jumping ship for the next thing that may or may not be set in stone, as I've heard of people getting their offers rescinded just days prior to their start date; leaving a position in this particular market seems illogical.

I apologise for such a long rant, but I'm completely burnt out. I search for new postings every single day, and I refresh pages every half hour, and I'm about to do so again, right after posting this.


r/recruitinghell 9h ago

Would you take a job from a place that describes themselves as a "dysfunctional family"?

35 Upvotes

Second interview I've had in a full year... but I'm also in this situation after getting jerked around and suddenly laid off by a place that also said "we're like a family here".

HR asked me to describe what them calling themselves a dysfunctional family means to me.

Am I wrong for instantly feeling its a red flag?


r/recruitinghell 18h ago

One of the craziest job postings I’ve seen

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r/recruitinghell 4h ago

Career Fair Cost -$70.

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A career fair in St. Louis is charging a $70 entry fee and includes a ticket to that night's hockey game. If I'm unemployed, how am I supposed to pay $70 to attend? Such a strange combonation.


r/recruitinghell 3h ago

Post the salary range

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A lot about this job description appealed to me. And, in the spirit of expectation setting, why not post the salary range?


r/recruitinghell 1d ago

Insane reply to earlier post

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This is also a huge issue; people who are presumably employed and normalizing the fact that the job market is abysmal. It doesn’t even matter that this person is a “youth” in school presumably and trying to work…100 a week? That’s assuming there even are 100 postings for positions that make sense for you, not just blindly applying for every job you see. I do about 15 a day, with personalized cover letters and tailoring my resume for each. For reference, I have BA/BS/MA and going on 3 years underemployed after having to take a break from working for cancer treatment😭


r/recruitinghell 1d ago

Meme Future interview question: "How are you training your subconscious to perfect your sales pitch in your idle time (sleep)?"

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r/recruitinghell 1d ago

Did I just get scammed for free work?

269 Upvotes

I need to vent. I went through two great interviews for a marketing role. The hiring manager seemed really into my portfolio. Then he gave me a "small practical assignment." It wasn't small. It was a complete ninety day marketing strategy for an actual product they're launching. They wanted full competitor analysis, ad copy, content calendars, and a budget proposal. This was easily twenty hours of real work, not a test. Because I really wanted the job, I did it. I put everything I had into it and sent over a massive presentation. What did I get back? A week of total silence. After I followed up, I finally got a cold, automated rejection email two weeks later. No feedback, no "thanks for your work." Just a template. I feel like a complete fool. I basically just gave them days of free consulting. I just checked and the job is still posted as actively recruiting. This process is so broken and exploitative.


r/recruitinghell 2h ago

Got ghosted after a (potential) offer?

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Essentially, I applied for a fellowship position (that was listed as having the potential to turn into a full-time position) way back in May of this year and made it pretty far through the interview process. I ended up being in the top 6 of candidates and was told after my final interview that I didn't make the cut, which was disappointing but totally fine. It actually ended up working out because I was accepted for a higher-paying fellowship position with more hours the next week and got an extension with a pay bump through December.

However, I got an email in August from the company's CEO (who interviewed me both times) asking if I was "still looking for work" and if I had time to "chat about the fellowship" –– essentially implying that the organization was growing and they maybe needed someone to fill the position? At the time, my current role hadn't been extended, so I immediately jumped on it to let him know I was available to chat soon. However, I did mention that I was currently working but that my term would end soon (just for transparency's sake).

After I sent that email (on the same day he reached out!), I never heard anything back from him. Followed up three times via email over the past 2 months and called once -- nothing. He generally seemed to be a little disorganized during the hiring process and the company only employs four people (including him) currently so I let it go for the first couple weeks, but this feels a little ridiculous. I'd much rather apply to roles that my current company is posting, but it's a much larger/more reputable organization so I've gotten rejected from the last two full-time jobs because the applicant pool has been so strong. Part of me is just hoping he'll get back to me sometime (anytime!) so I have a little bit of a safety net in January because I'll be out of work by then. It sounds like it wouldn't be an amazing job anyway since I'd have to take a huge pay cut and work way fewer hours, but the job market is so awful at this point that I'm desperate.

I know getting ghosted happens all the time, but it feels like such a slap in the face because we seemed to make a really good connection -- one of my references happened to be his former employer, we went to the same undergraduate school, and I honestly don't think I have done better on a set of interviews in my life.

Help!!


r/recruitinghell 1d ago

No one thought that maybe this sends a weird message?

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r/recruitinghell 32m ago

I hate the disrespect these companies show people. It’s so demoralizing.

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I got a job interview through an internal reference for a job I was more than qualified for. The internal reference is a VP (so not a low level employee.)

They rushed me through the interview phase. I had an HR screen, video interviews and then a panel interview within one week. They seemed so interested.

I have an excellent resume and I am very articulate. I also studied for 5 days for the final interview so I could answer every question they asked without hesitation. They kept telling me they were extremely impressed with my preparation.

I was very confident when I finished the last interview that the job was mine.

I sent a follow up email the next day thanking them etc and received a response back within 2 hours telling me they were so happy to meet me and learn about my background.

Now 2 weeks of silence. My application in the portal says “interview phase” and not rejected. But I emailed the HR recruiter Thursday and haven’t heard anything back.

WTF?

I am so depressed and confused. I put so much into this process and literally studied for days. Couldn’t they at least tell me they went with someone else?


r/recruitinghell 1h ago

Discussion Treat failure as data

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Hey Folks! Been following this forum for quite a while now, and I thought it would be a great idea to discusss why we sometimes feel like loosers when getting shot down??! especially from an interview and the way the make us feel about it...

So i've put together the psychological reasons of why this happens

There can be many reasons for this...

(PS: I'm not a psychologist just someone who sees things differently...)

Anyway, please read below (It's a long one but defo worth it!)

Starting with the reasons first then way's to work around with the problem at hand

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The problem:

..."Feeling "torned" when not achieving a goal is a psychological response that can stem from a mismatch between our desire to succeed and the frustrating reality of failure, creating a conflict between hope and disappointment. This feeling is intensified by a lack of clarity in goals, the fear of failure and its social consequences, and a cycle of negative self-talk or rumination. Cognitive and emotional factors Fear of failure: A learned fear can make you view failure as a shameful personal identity rather than a learning opportunity, creating a lose-lose situation in your mind. You may fear negative judgment from others if you fail, and even if you succeed, you might worry about envy and negative perceptions. Negative self-talk and rumination: You may become hyper-focused on what you didn't achieve, leading to feelings of being a failure. This can be intensified by rumination, a cycle of replaying the failure in your mind, which prolongs and deepens the negative emotions. Clash of goals: You might have goals that are not genuinely aligned with your values or that you don't truly believe are attainable, leading to an internal conflict. When you fail, you're left with a sense of disappointment and internal conflict, torn between the desire for success and the reality of not achieving it. Mindset blocks: Unhelpful thought patterns can create emotional barriers that hinder your progress. These "mindset blocks" create discomfort, and your mind may try to avoid these thoughts and feelings, leading to behaviors that further prevent you from achieving your goal. Behavioral and environmental factors Unrealistic goals: Setting overly ambitious or unrealistic goals can set you up for failure, which can damage your confidence and motivation. The more times you fail to meet these goals, the more you may lose belief in your ability to succeed. Lack of a support system: Not having a supportive network of encouraging people can make it harder to overcome fear of failure. It's also harder to cope with setbacks when you don't have a support system to help you reframe them. Misplaced focus: You might focus so much on the outcome of a goal that you fail to appreciate the effort and progress you've made along the way. This focus on the end result can lead to feeling that you've failed even if you've learned and grown significantly."

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The Solution:

1. Start Each Day by Grounding Your Perspective

Practice: 2-minute grounding ritual

  • Before checking messages or jumping into tasks, take 2 minutes to remind yourself: “My worth is not determined by outcomes but by effort, integrity, and consistency.”
  • Visualize your goals as directions, not verdicts — this rewires your mind away from all-or-nothing thinking.

Why it works:
Grounding shifts your focus from fear of failure to intentional effort, giving your nervous system a stable anchor before the day begins.

2. Redefine “Success” in Micro-Units

Practice: The Micro-Win system

  • Every morning, define three micro-successes for the day — small, achievable actions that serve your long-term goals (e.g., “Send one email,” “Read 2 pages,” “Take a 10-min walk”).
  • Check them off as you go.

Why it works:
It rebuilds internal trust. You teach your brain that effort → completion → satisfaction, short-circuiting the disappointment loop that comes from chasing huge, abstract goals.

3. Interrupt Negative Self-Talk with “Name and Reframe”

Practice:
When you notice self-critical thoughts (“I failed,” “I’m not good enough”), pause and say:

  • “That’s a fear voice, not a fact.*” Then reframe it:
  • “I’m learning something valuable about how I work under pressure.”

Why it works:
Labeling thoughts activates the prefrontal cortex — the rational part of your brain — and weakens the emotional sting from rumination.

4. Align Goals with Your True Values

Practice: Weekly value audit (5 minutes)

  • Ask yourself once a week: “Is this goal something I truly want, or something I feel I should want?”
  • Adjust goals that don’t reflect your real interests, not societal or external expectations.

Why it works:
It removes the “clash of goals” mentioned in the passage — restoring inner coherence and peace.

5. Build “Failure Immunity”

Practice: Scheduled failure training

  • Once a week, do something you might fail at intentionally (try a harder exercise, a new coding problem, cold outreach).
  • Afterward, note what you learned, not what went wrong.

Why it works:
This rewires your nervous system to treat failure as data, not danger, reducing fear over time.

6. Create an Emotional Support Routine

Practice:

  • Identify 1–2 people (mentors, peers, online communities) who encourage growth, not just results.
  • Share your progress and lessons with them weekly — even small ones.

Why it works:
External empathy regulates internal stress. It prevents the isolation that amplifies self-criticism.

7. End Each Day with Reflective Closure

Practice: 5-minute journal

  • Write down:
    • 1 thing that went right (no matter how small)
    • 1 lesson from what didn’t go right
    • 1 intention for tomorrow

Why it works:
This rebalances your focus away from outcome obsession to process appreciation. It completes the emotional loop, helping your mind rest.

8. Mantra for Torn Moments

When the “torn” feeling hits hardest, repeat this:

Anyhow, Hope this helps! Have a great week!!!


r/recruitinghell 18m ago

Why do recruiters hire people when they know their business is struggling/failing and can’t afford their workers?

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I understand people wanting to be supportive of small businesses but I don’t get them gambling with people’s livelihoods especially when they’re doing corrupt things and hurting/targeting marginalized people. I know regular businesses can be bad but at least you know they’re not going to collapse suddenly. Small businesses do that where they’ll demonize people so they don’t have to acknowledge it’s a lay off and they can’t afford their workers and won’t have to pay severance.


r/recruitinghell 1d ago

After 4 months of unemployment and 500 applications I finally got a job.

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I’ve been hired as a corrections officer. It’s a job I never thought I would do/ don’t want to do at all, but I had to take what I can get. Savings ran out this week and this is the only job out of 500 I’ve applied for that has answered. The job is going to suck but I am thrilled to be able to provide for my family again. The last 4 months were horrible and took a huge toll on my mental health.


r/recruitinghell 23h ago

How many interviews is too many?

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Im 46 years old. Not counting the years that I worked part time jobs through high school and college, I’ve been in the workforce for 24yrs and I have never had more than three interviews for a job. The norm is two interviews. If there was a third, it was only to discuss salary and the offer was extended. There was once when a fourth interview was requested, and I declined.

Now before anyone say why would I agree to a second interview without discussing salary, believe me when I say times have changed. Applicants were asked what their desired salary is, and if it was nowhere near what the company was willing to pay, you will be informed. Take it or leave it.

Anyway, I’m just baffled that people are agreeing to more than three interviews . however, I’m well aware that if that’s what it takes to get the job you must do it.

So here’s my unsolicited advice for recruiters. If you’re required to schedule that fourth or fifth interview, why not tell the applicant why? Evidently the candidate possess the skills you are looking for, but maybe there is an area of uncertainty. Why not address that area because if you don’t extend an offer, you have just wasted so much of that person’s time. Also, it seems that in person interviews are making a comeback, if someone travels to an office 4 or 5 times only to be rejected, now you have cost them resources.